We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
National Competition...
- On worries! - On worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
(It's nice to meet you.)
He's Oh Ji Ho, a handsome actor.
- Oh Ji Ho! - Hello, it's nice to meet you.
He's Choi Dong Seok, an announcer!
(Announcer Choi Dong Seok)
They're Seung Kwan and S.Coups of SEVENTEEN.
(Seung Kwan, S.Coups)
She's a singer from Russia.
- Lana. - Lana.
(Singer Lana)
All right. Ji Ho, it's been a long time.
Yes.
This is our fourth time meeting.
Right.
I heard you filmed a comedy again.
Yes. I'll be acting...
- like a fool once again. - So that's why you visited us.
Last time, you came to talk...
- Well... - about your play.
That's not true.
- Is it not? - No.
We usually invite him around this time of the year,
and he happened to have filmed a movie.
- I play the role of a homeless. - "Rainbow Playground"?
What kind of homeless looks like you?
It's ridiculous.
(He looks like a beautiful homeless.)
Exactly. Didn't you hold your son's...
- first birthday party? - Yes, you're right.
- Does he look like you? - Does he look like you?
People said he was good-looking.
When I introduced my daughter...
to others,
usually, people are supposed to say that she is pretty.
But they said she was cute.
- If the baby isn't that pretty, - Right.
they say, "Wow, it's a baby."
Right.
- That's the most... - If it's worse than that, they say,
- "Wow, it's warm." - Right.
The baby is warm.
- They were like that. - Also,
daughters continue to change as they grow up.
- She became so much prettier. - But you see,
when it comes to childrearing, you should ask him.
At KBS, he's the first person...
to take a paternity leave.
- Oh, really? - Among the KBS announcers?
You've been married for 10 years.
Yes, it's been exactly 10 years.
Didn't you take new wedding photos?
- We went to the Maldives. - That's a nice place.
We brought the tripod ourselves and took photos.
Goodness.
- It looks so nice. - How pretty.
You did well.
My daughter...
said it was too cheesy and posed as if she was puking.
"What are you guys doing?"
So that's it.
Although she is smiling.
How cute.
- This is the second photo. - Look.
If you look at my feet,
one of them is buried.
(His foot couldn't withstand the weight.)
- I was... - He couldn't withstand the weight.
It may look pretty, but there's a secret to it.
SEVENTEEN is also here.
Seung Kwan, your jaw looks more chiseled.
I was shocked after seeing photos of myself last time I came.
"Seung Kwan, that's just not right."
I was quite swollen, so I learned how to fix that.
- Teach us. - Okay, I'll tell you.
Put your hands over your chest.
Everyone's doing it. You're all swollen because it's the morning.
Then look up.
After that, you need to pout your lips.
(Raising your head will stretch your neck and jaw.)
- Do we stretch it? - Yes.
(He looks like a fish.)
You need to do this for a minute.
It's a fight against yourself.
What?
(I hope my fat goes away.)
Right, when you feel swollen,
- stretching helps. - Right.
All right. Lana is here for the first time.
Did you ever struggle with Korean?
When you go to the bank or the hospital, they ask,
"What brings you here?"
- Right. - "What brings you here?"
I was flustered,
so I said, "I rode the bus."
(It does make sense though.)
What they meant was, "Where are you hurting,"
or "How may I help you?"
Right.
Then what brings you to this show?
I wanted to listen...
- to your worries. - I see.
I thought you'd say, "My manager dropped me off."
(She was expecting her to say that.)
If you can't understand it.
We have three worries with us today.
Show us the keywords, please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
("Between Love And Obsession")
"Between Love And Obsession".
"Do You Have a Death Wish?"
- "Do You Have a Death Wish?" - "Please Stop".
The keywords are quite intense.
"Between Love And Obsession".
Hello, I'm a 22-year-old woman who is living a suffocating life.
"Where are you?"
"I just got off work and will meet a friend."
"No, come straight home."
"I haven't seen her in two months. I'll only spend an hour with her."
"No! Come home immediately."
The man who always keeps his eyes on me is...
Her dad?
(Who is it?)
He's my 27-year-old older brother.
It's her older brother.
But why? She's an adult.
"Whom did you meet yesterday? What's his age? Where does he live?"
"What kind of guy is he? Don't you ever meet him again."
None of the guys that I've met lived up to his expectations.
Thanks to my brother...
"We should break up."
"Why?"
"How can we date when we can't even meet?"
Dating a guy for a year is on my bucket list.
There's more.
"Give me your phone."
"Don't do that. Respect my privacy."
"Give it to me."
"Who is this? Is this a guy?"
Can you help me...
protect my privacy?
(Please protect my privacy.)
That's it.
Do any of your family members meddle in your business?
- Mine do. - Really?
I used to live with my grandparents.
My grandmother is very meddlesome.
- Your grandmother? - Yes.
My curfew was 6pm.
Whenever I talked to her on the phone,
she asked me if I was with a girl or a boy.
Did you come to Korea to get away from your grandmother?
(Did she come to Korea to get away from her grandmother?)
- That was part of the reason. - When you were moving to Korea,
she must've been really worried then.
It took months to persuade her.
(After long persuasion, she got her grandmother's permission.)
A girl who is struggling...
because of her meddlesome elder brother...
sent us the letter.
Please come on out.
(Who's struggling because of her elder brother...)
(who watches her 24 hours a day?)
Go escort her.
S.Coups.
S.Coups is escorting her.
I think her brother will hate this.
(Her brother's eyes changed.)
Her brother became upset.
When he was escorting her.
He got upset when S.Coups grabbed her hand.
(He's keeping an eye on S.Coups.)
Is it bad enough to bring it to Hello?
I am 22, and my brother is 27.
He's always been meddlesome.
Whoever I meet, he asks me where I am,
what time I will come home, and how much I spend.
- Even how much you spend. - He even asks me what time...
I will be coming home.
I am not allowed to sleep outside or travel.
When I ask him, he says I can't go.
I sleep at home and go to work.
After work, I go home.
- That's my life. - It must be very frustrating.
Usually, it's the parents who meddle with children's lives.
When we were younger, our parents got divorced.
Perhaps that's why he's more protective.
I live with my dad, my elder brother,
and my elder sister. We are family of four.
- Dad lives in his hometown. - You live separately.
My elder sister lives alone.
I started living with my elder brother when I turned 20.
I think that's why he became even more meddlesome.
- Now I can understand him. - We can sympathize with him.
Do you live with your elder brother now?
He got married last year.
So I now live with him and his wife.
- Your sister-in-law. - Yes.
- You live with them? - Yes.
(Oh, dear.)
She lives with her elder brother and her sister-in-law.
Her sister-in-law must hate it.
That's what I thought.
Does he meddle with his wife's life too?
She doesn't meddle with her life.
He's unusually meddlesome with me.
- Really? - Is he strict?
Does he strictly say no?
- He's scary. - He's scary.
When your brother tells you to come home early...
and you go home early,
doesn't your sister-in-law say, "Why did you come home so early?"
They are newlyweds.
My sister-in-law has given up.
- "She's home early." - Are you close to her?
Yes. I am close to my sister-in-law.
- You're close to her. - Yes.
The fact that they live together...
means that her sister-in-law is an understanding person.
In the letter, you said...
it's your dream to have a long relationship.
When I got my first boyfriend,
my brother got more meddlesome.
He always asked me where I was and how much money I spent.
He always asked me that.
The relationship only lasted for about 70, 80 days.
Dating a guy for...
more than a year is in my bucket list.
How long did your longest relationship last?
I've only had 1 boyfriend since I turned 20.
You've only had 1 boyfriend since you turned 20?
Do you get conscious when you talk to your boyfriend on the phone?
I get conscious.
Then you should just pretend you're talking to a girl.
"Gosh, girl. All right."
(Gosh, girl.)
My conscience won't allow it.
You don't have to tell him everything. You could keep it...
- a secret. - Right.
He checks my phone.
He checks my messenger chats and text messages.
He also checks...
my bank account history.
Your bank account history?
(He checks your bank account too?)
He checks my bank account history and sees how much I spend.
He's very sensitive about money.
Checking your bank account is crossing the boundary.
He's playing a father's role...
because they've been living together since they were young.
Does he give you money too?
Did you say money?
What have I done so wrong?
I was just curious. That's all.
(She got more upset while talking about it.)
Let's meet her brother. Hello.
Hello.
(Who is the brother that watches her all the time?)
- Look at his outfit. - He looks young.
That's not the outfit young people usually wear.
They don't wear a vest.
Young people these days don't wear the vest.
I have to for my job.
- It's fashionable. - He looks great.
Can you understand why your sister is worried?
I never considered it a worry.
(She's unhappy.)
Any brother who has a little sister...
would worry about her, as her elder brother.
You think all the brothers in the world are like that?
- Right. - Do you...
not check your wife's phone?
I don't.
I think she handles everything well.
I think my sister is...
not the wisest person.
- How... - Pardon?
What do you think of your sister?
- When it comes to money. - She's not the wisest person.
What he just said and...
his vest match so well.
- They match perfectly. - He's so inflexible.
- He's unbelievable. - He's inflexible.
But if you think about it,
not every elder brother...
- checks his little sister's phone. - Right.
Of course.
It's not actually checking her phone.
My sister is vulnerable.
So I am only checking...
if there's anyone bad around her.
- You could just ask her. - Wouldn't...
she tell you first?
- If there's a bad guy? - Do you know right away...
- when you see it? - You are...
asking too many questions all at once.
We are...
He's not the wisest either.
- When you check her phone, - He's cute.
can you tell who's bad and who's good?
That's not it. I check the content.
- You check the content? - That's even stranger.
Isn't that stepping over her privacy?
Her privacy...
She's your sister, but she deserves privacy.
She's my sister.
- He's very patriarchal. - I think it's okay.
(He's very stubborn.)
(He's worse than my grandmother.)
Isn't it okay if she's with her boyfriend?
If she's with someone she loves?
Right, but...
I've been watching her boyfriends.
But there was nobody with a good job...
and clear principles.
Your sister is 23.
It's very unlikely the guy she sees would have a good job.
That's what I am saying.
"That's what I am saying"?
He's unbelievable.
She doesn't have to meet someone who is 22,
someone who is her age.
Then would you rather prefer her to meet a man in his 40s...
with a good-paying job?
- That's not what you want, is it? - It's not.
I can say this.
I am not too concerned about the man she sees.
When she dates a guy,
she would get into a fight.
Even when she has a fight,
she has to carry on with her life.
But she cries all day and doesn't come out of her room.
I saw her struggle.
It made me realize that dating isn't good for her.
She was affected all day.
I want her to date a man when she has the power...
to overcome such things.
- How can she gain that power? - Why did you let him see you cry?
(It's frustrating.)
You gain experience when you date.
You have to experience failure...
to see who's good and who's bad.
That way, you can learn to...
choose a good man to marry.
When you were 22,
you must've been in a relationship.
I was.
Why did you date when you weren't wise enough?
Hear me out.
When she was breaking up, she said...
my interference was the cause of the breakup.
But the girls I've dated when I was in my early 20s...
had to put up with much worse...
interference from their family members.
But that was never the cause of the breakup.
I think they break up...
because those men didn't like her enough.
Give us an example then.
The family of your ex-girlfriend was stricter than you?
- What were the restrictions? - Her curfew was 5pm.
- Her curfew was 5pm. - Her curfew was 5pm?
- Yes. - She went home before sundown?
How old was your girlfriend?
But it's true.
- It was really like that. - She went home before sundown?
Did your ex-boyfriend...
say that things are tough...
because of your brother?
- We couldn't meet often. - He didn't let you meet him.
Right. He found that difficult.
- He found that difficult. - I am sure.
So that caused the breakup at one point.
When do you think your sister...
will be ready to date a man?
If she meets a man that looks proper to me,
she could be in a relationship tomorrow.
- "A proper man". - What's your idea of the right man?
Someone who doesn't waste away his day.
I want someone who does his job well.
Someone with sound mind.
I personally want to ask you about this.
You keep checking how much she spends.
You don't give her money.
She earns and spends her own money.
So why do you keep checking her spending?
I have something to say about that.
My goodness.
It's not that I don't trust my sister.
I trust that she does her job well.
Her dream was to start her own photography studio.
- A studio. - Yes.
I gave her tens of thousands of dollars...
to open her own photography studio.
Really?
I trust her as a photographer.
But she's a very young business owner.
I am certain that there are...
I am sure there are some good people around her.
But I am worried that some might approach her...
thinking that she's rich.
That's why I am sensitive about money.
You are a great brother. You opened her a studio?
- Did he pay for everything? - He's great.
Yes, and I am very grateful for it.
There are surveillance cameras at the photography studio.
He watches the CCTV footage.
My goodness.
Did he connect them to his phone?
Yes. One day,
my boyfriend came and sat at the counter.
My brother called me and told me...
in a serious tone not to let him sit at the counter.
It turned out he was watching the shop through the cameras.
"Don't let him sit at the counter."
(It must've really surprised her.)
This is how we came to install the cameras.
It's my sister's first time to be in the service industry.
She's shy,
so I wanted to watch her and see if she was doing well.
I'll tell you what happened at that time.
They say seeing is wanting.
- You never know. - When you see it...
He was sitting at the counter.
Stealing your girlfriend's money is the most pathetic thing to do.
I didn't know he was her boyfriend.
I could only see the back of his head.
If he didn't know, why did he have to speak with such a low voice?
How exactly did you say it? Let us hear it.
- With a low voice? - I didn't speak with a low voice.
I've never heard it before.
She says you spoke with a low voice.
Anyway, you don't have a boyfriend because of your brother?
(Does she have no boyfriend because of her nosy brother?)
I started going out with someone a few days ago.
But...
- he's younger... - Does she have a boyfriend?
He didn't know.
My boyfriend is younger than me.
He's younger than you?
(Her boyfriend is younger than her.)
- He's even younger than her. - He's younger than her.
You're 22, and your boyfriend is younger than you?
- He's a year younger than me. - He's a year younger.
- Her brother looks shocked. - Are you shocked?
- You didn't know? - I mean...
(Stuttering)
Is it true? Is she not lying?
Is it true?
- Her friends say it's true. - He's shocked.
She didn't tell me.
Her boyfriend is a year younger than her.
I think you should take off your vest.
You told us about what you wanted her boyfriend to be like.
But I guess her boyfriend isn't like that. He can't have a job...
yet, right?
I guess not.
(This is frustrating.)
Don't you think...
your sister should meet different people...
and learn about them in her early 20s?
I think she has a low self-esteem.
Whenever she gets hurt,
she can't shake it off easily. She's not strong-minded at all.
That might be because you overprotect her.
- He's right. - You should listen to her...
and try to find what she can do well.
But you just pressure her.
To be honest, I can't change my mind on this matter.
When I think my sister has become strong enough,
I might be able to stop.
But not yet.
(This is hard.)
Does he even nag you...
about eating out with your friends?
Yes. It takes them two hours to come see me in Cheonan from Buyeo.
After they've been on a two-hour bus ride,
I can't make them pay for the food.
- Of course not. - You should treat them.
It's not even like I buy them expensive food.
But my brother scolds me for buying them food.
She buys them food because they came all the way from Buyeo.
Isn't that how all relationships work?
The thing is,
my sister owns a photo studio and is settled.
I'm worried her friends meet her because of that.
Do you mean her friends live off her?
I don't think their friendship is that deep.
They might be job-hunting or studying.
I'm afraid my sister is making sacrifices...
for her friends.
The girls next to him look baffled.
They're glancing at the brother. They're his sister's friends.
Are they the friends living in Buyeo?
I grew up in Buyeo, but I live in Daejeon now.
I haven't seen Kyeong Ju in about four months.
- In four months? - Yes.
Her brother thinks we're incompetent and unemployed,
but we both have jobs.
We can't meet often because we take off different days of the week.
I haven't seen Kyeong Ju in a year to a year and a half.
I take weekends off, and Kyeong Ju takes Tuesdays off.
As I don't work on weekends,
I go see Kyeong Ju...
- and go home after a few hours. - Really?
You're such a good friend.
As her friend, what do you feel saddest about?
Back in high school,
Kyeong Ju wasn't allowed to sleep over at friends' places.
So I would come over to Kyeong Ju,
play there, and sleep over.
(She came over and slept over.)
One night, it was raining, and she slept alone.
(I remember that.)
And she hugged me in sleep.
Seriously...
So...
My goodness.
- She was lonely and scared. - My goodness.
- She felt sorry for Kyeong Ju. - She felt sorry.
(She felt sorry for her friend who was never free.)
When you're with Kyeong Ju, does she get many calls from her brother?
She does. And it's not only her brother.
Her older sister also calls and asks for a picture of us.
When she drinks with her friends,
her brother calls and asks,
"Are you with a guy?"
He always speaks with a low voice.
- "With a low voice"? - "With a low voice"?
What's with his low voice?
What does it sound like?
He also thinks Kyeong Ju is not wise enough.
But it's not true. She started a photo studio at 20.
She's always had a goal.
At the peak of her youth,
if she's not allowed to be free even for a day in a week,
she won't become strong like her brother wants her to.
It'll only harm her.
I hope her brother will trust her more.
Why did you suddenly cry...
earlier?
I just feel like crying.
Do you feel sorry for your friend?
Because her brother is so obsessed with her?
(She holds back her tears.)
(Kyeong Ju cries too.)
(Glancing)
Kyeong Ju's brother will tell Kyeong Ju to stop meeting you...
because you're not a strong person.
(She's not a strong person.)
"She cries too much because of her friend. Stop meeting her."
- "I said, stop meeting her." - "She's not strong at all."
Tell Kyeong Ju's brother that he should stop.
Let Kyeong Ju...
(She fails.)
Don't cry.
(Don't cry.)
Become a strong friend. A strong friend.
(She holds back her tears.)
Try again.
Just trust her.
- Oh, my. - Please just trust her.
There you go.
(She feels sorry and grateful.)
(I feel sorry for her.)
Your sister's friends asked you...
to trust your sister more.
(Can you trust her now?)
Right now,
my sister might think...
I'm just being nosy.
But I do believe it'll become the root of her life in the future.
(Her friends' begging was useless.)
I can't change my mind yet.
Why are you so sure about that?
(Frustrated)
What did your life look like in your early 20s?
I started working already in high school.
And I finished college on a scholarship.
You worked hard.
I think we should...
make some sacrifices in our 20s, while we still have a lot of energy.
(He sounds like a father.)
I think it's a shame if we don't.
By the way,
is there any special reason why you're so worried about your sister?
Exactly.
My father used to be extremely patriarchal.
He never even went into the kitchen.
But when I was in eighth grade, my parents got divorced.
When you're divorced, it's hard to raise children.
It's easy for a man to indulge in women, alcohol, or gambling.
But my father started wearing an apron in the kitchen.
I still remember it so vividly.
In my life,
my father is my priority number one and my hero.
And my sister also has my father as her root.
I don't want her to disgrace her root.
(He must feel pressured as the eldest son.)
It must have been hard...
raising three children alone.
In the beginning, it was extremely hard.
I even considered ending it all.
(He even considered ending it all.)
But I had three children to take care of,
so I gave up on the thought.
I decided to live for my children.
After listening to your son,
you must understand why he works so hard.
But do you also understand why your daughter is suffering?
My son got married and opened a shop with the money he saved up.
I couldn't give him any money.
I'm proud of him in that sense.
- Of course. - Of course.
I had no idea he was giving his sister such a hard time.
I actually tried to talk to him.
Before, he never talked back to me.
But now, he lectures even me.
Is that your worry?
Yes.
(Is that your worry?)
Anyway, I do understand my son.
- So... - Right.
I always feel bad for what he went through.
(It's hard for him to criticize his son.)
Your father must be on your brother's side.
- I can't talk to my family easily. - I guess so.
It feels like no one in my family is on my side.
(She must feel lonely.)
Why don't you move out then?
We did talk about it,
but my brother will never let me.
The thing is, he talks to me in such an aggressive way.
He's very short-tempered too.
And it hurts me every time.
When he apologizes afterwards,
I make up with him because I'm scared of him,
but I'm still hurt.
It continues to hurt you.
All older brothers and parents are the same.
My intention is never to hurt her.
Also, even if I ask her to do 100 things,
she can never do all 100 things, right?
I want her to understand.
(Do I always have to do as you say?)
What are the specific things you want your brother to stop doing?
When I'm with my boyfriend or friends,
I don't want him to call me.
I want him to stop asking me how much money I spend.
I also want him to stop checking my phone.
- He should stop that. - And my bank books.
Can you stop doing those things?
I'll try.
- Trying isn't enough. You have to. - By all means.
You might even be sued. It's her personal information.
And...
(Is there anything else to say?)
People with power don't know.
"This is all for you."
- Right. - But it's so terrifying...
for the one going through it.
It's very, very terrifying.
But she's too old to be treated like this.
You protected her well like a father.
(He did a good job of protecting his little sister.)
But you still treat her as if she's a child,
as if she's a minor.
She's 22 years old.
It's her life to live.
She has to make the choices and take responsibility for her choices.
You are meddling with her life as if it's your life to live...
- Right. - under the name of protection.
(He's meddling with his sister's life under the name of protection.)
If that's love, does it mean you don't love your wife?
Why do you not do that to your wife?
Do you not love her? Do you not protect her?
(If interference and control are love, )
(he should do the same to his wife.)
Sir, you must...
- apologize to Yeong Ja. - Do you want to fight?
What do you think about that? She's right, you know.
That's very important.
(Will he be able to change his perception on his sister?)
I am 1 of 3 children.
I took care of my younger sister.
I supported her financially too.
But while doing that,
I kept nagging at her about what to do and what not to do.
- Right. - But the moment you do that,
this is what happens.
Ever since I did that, she stopped talking to me.
(He confesses a sad truth.)
She accepts my help,
but she never opens up to me.
Right.
(She accepts help, but she doesn't open up to him.)
You might not realize what the happiest moment is.
It is not when your sister is with a competent man...
who is also a good person.
The really happy moment is when your sister...
calls you with a smile.
There must be times like that.
Right.
(The really happy moment is when his sister calls him with a smile.)
All right. Before we finish, talk to your brother.
Tell him what you want.
I am going to start installment savings.
I am also going to...
put up a new sign next year.
In five years, I am going to...
send Dad on a trip abroad with the money I make.
(She's going to send her dad on a trip abroad with her money.)
- She's a good daughter. - So...
please trust me. I want you to trust me.
(Please trust me.)
What do you want to tell her lastly?
Honestly, even until yesterday, I wasn't willing to come here.
(How about now then?)
(Does he still feel the same?)
I would've regretted it if I didn't come.
(He would've regretted it if he didn't come.)
I would've been really sorry.
(That's very good.)
Even when I sat here,
I didn't think it was a worry.
But after hearing everything,
I now think it's a worry and I have to change.
I'm glad you came here.
I am very grateful to Hello.
(He's grateful to Hello.)
(Thanks to you all, )
(this became the nation's beloved talk show.)
Before we end, tell your sister you love her.
- Tell her you love her. - What would you tell her?
But it makes me cringe.
- Even if it makes you cringe. - Please do it for her.
Say it with a low voice.
(He will say it with a low voice.)
- Let us hear it. - Let us hear it.
- I can't do it. - "Kyeong Ju."
I will keep the promise...
I made a while ago as soon as this shoot ends.
(We will cheer for his change.)
He admitted to it.
- He's great. - Sir?
- Yes. - You raised your children well.
- Thank you. - You did a good job.
He's been playing the role of a father,
and I am grateful to him for that. But...
I hope he will play only the role of a brother from now on.
I will play the father role myself.
She's the youngest, so I still call her "baby".
I will try to change that too.
Let's live happily. I love you.
- Lovely. - "I love you."
That was lovely.
(Let's live happily. I love you.)
(She thought nobody was on her side.)
(But her family reached out to her.)
(Now she can dream about being happy again.)
Let's start with Lana. Is it a worry or not?
I don't have an elder brother, and I always wanted one.
But not anymore.
(Lana thinks it's a worry.)
You don't want one like him.
Even if you are family, you shouldn't force...
your standard on someone else.
I think it's a worry.
I am sorry to say this, but I wish you'd take off your vest.
This is why I say this.
You live by such strict principles.
And you force them on your sister too.
But every person live by...
different life principles.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(How many people would sympathize with her?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - Let's check the result.
"Between Love And Obsession".
Out of 200 votes,
how many votes did she get?
- 145. - 145.
"Please Stop".
That's the title.
Hello.
I am a woman in her 40s who has 2 children.
Other women are eager to visit their parents once they get married.
But I don't want to visit my parents.
"Dad, I'm here."
"Your father's not here."
"He went out again."
My father, who turned 80 this year...
attends to his farm all day long.
From rice to...
chili, garlic, ginger...
He farms 17,000m² of land alone,
without the help of machines.
He does everything alone.
This is why...
"My back hurts. My back hurts."
"My legs. My legs."
"Did you work again, Dad?"
"You should work less now."
"Stop it!"
"What's the point of being idle?"
"Gosh, my back hurts!"
He is in pain every night, and yet he is very stubborn.
Even this happened.
"Dad, what happened to your legs?"
"I fell off a cliff while driving a cultivator."
"Then you should've seen a doctor."
"I'll be fine."
"I have to go to the chili farm."
He could've gotten seriously hurt,
and yet he still headed to his farm.
I want to stop worrying now.
Please stop my father.
(Please stop working, Dad.)
- 17,000m² is too big. - I know.
- It's the size of a baseball field. - It's too big.
- It must be about that big. - Yes.
He does it alone without machines.
- I know. - Without machines.
Did your parents ever make you worried?
- I live with my grandparents. - You live with your grandparents.
They are over 70 now.
My grandmother is a doctor.
Your grandmother is a doctor? She's great.
- My grandfather... - She just bragged.
She's a doctor?
She told me the same thing.
My grandfather has a serious heart condition.
He says, "What would I do if I quit my job?"
"I am working for you."
When he tells me that,
I feel more worried.
But his wife is a doctor.
So he must feel less worried.
Let's meet her.
Please come on out.
(Who's the lady worried about her overworking 80-year-old father?)
[VIU Ver] KBS2 E430 'Hello Counselor' "Between Love And Obsession" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
(Lee Hyang Sook)
A lot of elders who live in the country...
continue to farm.
But he overdoes it too much.
He's 80 now.
- 80. He turned 80 this year. - Yes.
- He turned 80 this year. - Yes.
He farms about 17,000m² of land.
He farms it with Mom.
- My goodness. - When he sleeps,
he groans really badly.
When I hear that,
I feel really bad.
Where do your parents live?
They live in Seosan of South Chungcheong Province.
Seosan of South Chungcheong Province.
That's near Yeong Ja's hometown.
That's my hometown. Hello.
- What are... - I am Ms. Seaside Village.
the popular crops to grow there? What do they farm?
The area is known for garlic and ginger.
- It's called "six-clove garlic". - Six-clove garlic.
It's harvested on gimjang season.
- They are nice and plump. - Right.
It goes really well with grilled pork belly.
They farm garlic. What else?
- They farm garlic, ginger, - Ginger.
- and a lot of rice. - Rice.
- Rice is the major crop. - Yes.
In a small scale, they farm onions, potatoes,
green onions, beans...
- Beans. - When...
- there are idle lands in town... - Idle lands.
- They farm those too? - If there are idle lands...
He passionately looks for those.
I see.
He must be still healthy though to farm...
- 17,000m² of land. - Right.
I thought he was healthy.
But just a few months ago, he mishandled the wheel.
- My goodness. - He fell off a cliff.
(Oh, dear.)
(That's too dangerous.)
He mishandled the wheel.
- My goodness. - He fell off a cliff.
(Oh, dear.)
(That's too dangerous.)
- Goodness. - The cultivator was...
almost destroyed.
It was? Goodness.
Fortunately, he fell on top of a pine tree.
He was hanging there.
Yes. His neighbors told him that he was lucky.
- You're right. - He was very lucky.
Goodness.
It looks completely destroyed.
- It was destroyed. - They were so lucky.
Were they not hurt?
- It looks horrible. - Was he hurt?
- No. - My goodness.
My gosh, you must've had a heart attack.
I trembled after seeing the photos.
- Goodness. - Despite going through that,
is he still working?
Yes. I thought he wouldn't drive cultivators...
- for the time being. - Right, after what happened.
- That was a huge accident. - But...
he fixed it.
(Why does he go this far?)
What about your mom?
She's greedy about work as well.
- I see. - She's greedy about many things.
She got knee surgery few years ago.
- Right. - Actually,
she has trouble walking alone.
- But she goes out... - She works too.
and works all day.
I saw her walking just a while ago,
and she did seem to have a difficult time walking.
Let's meet her parents.
Please talk loudly since her dad can't hear well.
We should raise our voices.
Hello, sir.
- Hello. - Hello.
Hello.
Sir, please introduce yourself.
(It's nice to meet you.)
He's cute.
Sir.
He waved both of his hands.
I currently live in Maryong-ri, Buseok-myeon, Seosan,
South Chungcheong Province.
It's nice to meet you.
- Hello. - Sir,
I was born in Gonam-ri, Anmyeon-eup, Taean-gun,
South Chungcheong Province.
I only heard about you. This is my first time seeing you.
Right. Aren't you happy to see me?
How does she look in real life?
She looks exactly like how she looks on TV.
(She looks exactly like how she looks on TV.)
(She's disappointed.)
(Her face doesn't deceive anyone.)
(They're happy.)
Sir, the TV makes me look fat.
Don't I look so slender and small in real life?
(Blinking)
All right.
He's very upright.
He heard her loud and clear but refused to answer.
Sir, did you work today?
Because of the typhoon yesterday,
the rice have all fallen down.
- Oh, no. - They have.
I need to do something about them,
but I had to come here.
He's worried about work.
I came here after watching the rice.
Goodness, I'm glad you're here.
You are?
I'm happy you're here.
Appearing on this show won't make me any money. I need to work.
How about saying hi to your neighbors?
- Say hi. - My dear Maryong neighbors,
I'm on TV. Make sure to check it out.
That's so nice.
It's so heartwarming.
"Make sure to check it out."
Sir, your youngest daughter came here because she's worried...
about how hardworking you are.
Don't be worried.
- There's no need. - That's the end of this worry.
(What should I do?)
This was what I've been doing all my life.
I'm doing this for fun.
- So... - Since when did you farm?
I started when I was about 15.
He was in middle school.
When I turned 12, the Korean War broke out.
- Right. - Right.
I'm not sure if you know that.
Of course, we do!
(We must.)
We had nothing to eat.
We had to make money to buy food.
Right.
What are some of your crops?
Rice.
- "Pear"? - No, rice.
And beans.
- "Pear"? - It must be...
- the dialect. - Talk about the chilis.
Talk about the chilis.
What is she saying?
- Chilis as well. - She's frustrated.
Sir, who's that next to you?
She's my wife.
(She's shy.)
Let's look at some photos of your rice paddies.
- They look so big. - It looks like this.
(His rice paddies stretch far and wide.)
I don't see the end.
(It's 17,000m².)
(They're planting rice.)
That's him in the center.
- Goodness, what is this? - It's garlic.
- Garlic? - It's garlic.
(Look at that.)
When do you rest?
- I don't have any days off. - You don't have any.
I work every day.
- Goodness. - I do.
I've always been doing it.
I do it because I enjoy it.
- You enjoy it? - If it wasn't fun,
I wouldn't be doing it.
Can you work alone and let your wife rest?
- How about working alone? - That's not fun.
It's not fun.
They need to work together.
How's your body after the accident?
I don't know if you know much about cultivators.
But they go nonstop.
(His cultivator was driving furiously.)
I went wherever it took me.
(He's very nonchalant.)
We shouldn't laugh.
- The cultivator wanted to go. - And...
the cultivator's neck broke in half.
My wife was stuck in a tree.
I needed to save her.
I cut the branches with a saw and got her out.
That's how I saved her.
You're amazing.
Ma'am, your daughter came here because she was worried...
about you two. What do you think?
I want her to stop worrying because we're fine.
We still have the energy, yet she wants us to stop.
They're the only ones who manage all those paddies.
Now, my siblings and I have no choice...
- but to help. - Right.
My brother contacts us through a group chat.
He says, "Who wants to plant rice seeds this week?"
- He notifies you. - "Raise your hands."
I bet you prefer to visit your in-laws.
(She doesn't answer.)
Am I wrong?
- Yes. - I'm wrong?
- That's still not right. - Really?
She just ignored you.
- Isn't your husband here as well? - Yes.
Let's meet him.
Since I lived in Incheon,
I didn't know anything about farming.
But after 21 years of helping out,
- I've become a farmer myself. - I see.
Were there times when you didn't want to go?
Yes. Well...
(Flustered)
There's a reason why I can't think that way.
Back then, I thought working at an office...
was the hardest thing to do.
But it's incomparable to farming.
- Even when it's 35°C... - Right.
with no wind, you must work two consecutive days...
to tend to those endless rice paddies.
You're bound to become sore.
If I don't help out,
I feel terrible.
I feel better after helping them.
Sir.
Is he good at farming?
He's not good since he's not experienced.
But they say that having someone next to you during hard times helps.
- Right. - It doesn't matter how good he is.
I'm just glad he's there.
- I see. - In order to dissuade them,
her other siblings are here.
Hello.
What do you think about her worry?
It hurts me to know that the strenuous tasks...
have become an everyday routine for them.
He can't stop working.
He can't even reduce the amount of work that he does.
It pains me that he thinks of this as something he'll do forever.
One time, my sister bought them some roasted chestnuts in a bag.
They were shocked to see something like that.
They haven't gone on trips...
or had delicious food. They haven't really enjoyed life.
My parents have home appliances at home.
But my mom thinks it's a waste.
Does she not use them then?
She washes the clothes...
- With her hands? - with her hands.
(Even when she has a washing machine?)
During special occasions, we all gather together...
which means there are a lot of clothes to wash.
She tells us to hand-wash our clothes.
We're not allowed to take showers with warm water either.
She says it's a waste.
I use the washing machine to spin-dry the clothes.
You don't use any water.
You actually remove excess water.
Washing machines use...
a lot of water.
You need to be economical.
When I was young, my mother was ill,
so she couldn't attend my school events.
I'm sure there were times when you were disappointed in them.
On Christmas Days or Children's Days,
they never had time to celebrate with us,
so I didn't feel disappointed about it.
However, when I got married...
and gave birth to my child...
(Her parents couldn't go to see her.)
but they couldn't come to see me, I was disappointed.
- When you had a baby? - Yes.
I gave birth to my child in late March,
which is the busiest time in a farming village.
Well, since it was a long time ago, I don't remember clearly.
It's not that we didn't go see her because we hated her.
It was because we had things to do that day, and if we went to see her,
our work schedule would've been messed up.
If I think about it now,
I regret many things I didn't do...
to my children.
I'm sorry that I couldn't do those things to them.
(They heard how their father really feels for the first time.)
(Teary)
I always think that my parents are...
- like the air to me. - "The air".
I can't even imagine...
my life without my parents.
That's how much I rely on them.
A few years ago,
my dad tore his shoulder ligament.
Did he keep working without knowing that?
He didn't know that. He just complained shoulder pain...
while working as always.
He even said that he couldn't get surgery right away,
He wanted to finish harvest before Chuseok,
and then he would get surgery.
So he got surgery in winter.
All of my five children...
are worried about me...
asking if I'm going to keep farming until the day I die.
But don't worry.
I'm still working because I enjoy working.
So don't worry too much.
(He has no intention of reducing his working hours.)
Sir.
But sir, your children...
go on a trip with their families from time to time. It's so nice.
It would be nice for you to live like that too.
I went on a trip with them too.
(Don't worry about it either.)
I'm glad you did.
- I thought you never did. - When did you go on a trip?
I went with my kids as they asked.
And they took me to Yeosu.
(Could he have a happy memory about the trip to Yeosu?)
But I'd been there with friends from the senior citizen community center,
and with my neighbors.
It wasn't so much fun because I had already been there.
When we had lunch... I'll tell you just one thing...
- that was the most memorable. - Sure. Please do, sir.
They served seasoned ark clams...
in a large bowl. They served this much of ark clams.
I was surprised that they served...
a lot of such expensive clams.
I really enjoyed it.
- Was it good? - It still remains in my memory.
(It's the small but certain happiness of his.)
Why did you go on a trip to Yeosu?
To celebrate his 80th birthday.
- This year? - He turned 80 this year.
- So you went on a trip this year? - That's right.
- They're a big family. - He must have many grandchildren.
Yes, we are.
Sir, how does that photo make you feel?
- It makes me happy. I'm happy. - Pardon?
The fact that a man like me...
have so many descendants...
makes me feel very proud.
- Of course, it does. - By the way,
does your father drink or smoke?
- He can't drink at all. - I see.
- Does he smoke? - He had smoked for 50 years,
- but about 10 years ago, - He quit smoking?
he quit overnight.
I should ask him how he quit it so easily.
There's a welfare center...
in the downtown.
One day, some stranger said to me,
"Sir, you still smoke?"
That hurt my pride so much.
I heard it was because the ladies at the welfare center...
refused to be his dance partner.
(They refused because he reeked of cigarette.)
- A dance partner... - I knew it.
- for ballroom dance? - Yes.
- What you said is the real reason? - Yes.
You quit smoking because the ladies wouldn't be your dance partners.
That's not true.
- Don't lie. - It's a different story.
I didn't quit smoking to save money...
or because I couldn't get any cigarettes.
- Why did you quit smoking? - She's asking him again.
- Why did I quit smoking? - His wife looks upset.
"That's why you quit smoking."
(It's so fun to watch.)
Other than working in the field,
is there anything you two want to do?
(Curious)
There's nothing I want to do.
Eating, working, and then sleeping is good enough for me.
(He doesn't know how to enjoy his life.)
I want to go to the market...
to buy some side dishes and new clothes.
- That's what I want to do. - Going shopping?
Ma'am, would you marry him again...
in your next life?
(Expectant)
Yes, I would.
- Sir, please hold the mic. - They're asking you a question.
They're asking if you would marry Mom again in your next life.
(He stays quiet.)
- Sir, how could you hesitate? - Oh, no.
- Your wife said yes. - She's shocked.
I wouldn't marry her.
Look how perplexed she seems.
- She's glaring at him. - "Gosh, I can't believe him."
Ma'am. She's taken aback.
Ma'am, I'll ask you again.
She seems so taken aback.
Would you marry him again in your next life?
I would marry him again.
Okay. Let's ask him again.
Sir.
Sir, you have...
- another chance. - Would you marry Mom again?
I can't believe she would marry such a foolish man like me again.
My goodness.
- To avoid making her life hard. - Oh, that must be the reason.
He's afraid he might make her life hard.
(Everyone is laughing out loud.)
Look at her face.
She still looks upset.
- "What is he talking about?" - You should've said you'd marry me.
(He'll probably be nagged about it for the next 10 years.)
(This is not what we expected.)
Say a few words to your parents before we wrap up.
Mom and Dad,
I hope you will reduce your work hours,
so you can live as you do now for a long time.
I have nothing else to say.
Thank you. Thank you so much.
(We hope you all make happy memories with love and attention.)
(We wish you two health.)
Now, let's start the vote.
- She must be worried... - I see.
since they work too hard.
It's understandable that she's worried. I think it's a worry.
I don't think it's a worry.
It seems that he's happy about his work,
and they seem happy working together.
I think it's a worry.
I fully understand her...
because her parents are just like my grandparents.
Being healthy is the best.
It's understandable for their children to worry about them.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
Five,
- 4, - 4,
- 3, - 3,
- 2, - 2,
- One. - Time's up.
"Please Stop".
(The result)
They remind me of my parents.
She got 95 votes.
Sir, ma'am, I wish you two a healthy, long life.
I wish you a health life.
It's "Do You Have a Death Wish?"
(The title alone is scary.)
Hello.
I'm a woman in my 50s who can't sleep well because of her husband.
We've seen a lot of...
heavy drinkers and smokers on Hello until now, right?
However, my husband...
is both.
(He drinks and smokes a lot!)
He drinks at least three bottles of soju every day.
At least three bottles?
He drinks up to five bottles.
He even smokes...
three packs of cigarettes a day.
5 bottles of soju and 3 packs of cigarettes?
- The problem is... - My gosh.
that he was diagnosed with...
- acute diabetes three years ago. - Oh, no.
He started losing weight each day.
He lost 10kg in a short period of time.
Even his teeth are falling out.
Despite such condition, my husband still...
"I'm home."
"I drank just a little."
"I'm sorry."
"Gosh, you smell so bad."
"My goodness. You even smoked too."
"I told you to quit drinking and smoking."
"You're the one who should stop nagging at me."
"I can take care of myself."
Could he really have a death wish?
Please stop my husband.
(Please save my husband.)
Do you drink or smoke?
I had not drunk at all...
until I joined the TV station.
- Is that true? - Yes.
I learned how to drink from my wife.
Is that so?
My wife used to drink three bottles of soju when she was younger...
just like her husband. She can drink a lot.
Judging from what you said about your wife,
she doesn't sound so attractive...
or good enough to marry. You said she drinks a lot and...
But she's pretty.
(There's nothing else to say.)
(My goodness.)
- I can't argue with that. - This is why so many women...
have plastic surgery.
It's because pretty women meet good men.
(He really is a romanticist.)
Let's bring out our guest. Please come out.
(Who is worried about her husband who drinks and smokes a lot?)
Can you go help her?
(Lee Seon Mi)
Please tell us about your husband's health condition.
He was diagnosed with acute diabetes 3 or 4 years ago,
and in result, he lost 10 to 15kg in a very short period of time.
Oh, gosh.
He used to...
play tennis and work out.
He had muscular thighs.
- His thighs? - Yes.
One day, he came out after a shower,
his thighs looked like an old man's.
His thighs got skinny.
Most of his back teeth have fallen out.
Due to diabetes,
it's hard to treat his teeth.
- Because he has diabetes? - Yes, I heard...
that diabetes makes the treatment hard.
Whenever I see him, I feel upset and feel bad for him.
- Oh, no. - That's how I feel.
However, ma'am,
your concern breaks my heart, but I can tell...
- how much you love him. - We can feel your affection.
How much does your husband rely on alcohol?
He doesn't know how to stop drinking.
He comes home late at night, and drinks until the night after.
He drink at least 3 or 4 bottles of soju just as I told you earlier.
How much does he smoke?
He smokes outside of our house.
- He steps out every 15 minutes. - Goodness.
Can he drink a lot?
He used to drink a lot less than I could.
We used to work at the same company.
- You and your husband did? - Yes. I was...
- his superior at work. - Hang on.
You met him at work? You don't have an older brother, right?
(Feeling guilty)
We were in the quality control department.
When we drank with our colleagues, he drank so little,
so I teased him saying, "What kind of man can't drink?"
"Give me your glass. I'll drink it for you."
- You drank it for him? - You drank it for him?
- Yes, I did. - She drank it instead of him.
Is that how you fell in love?
My husband is not my type.
- I always dated a tall man. - I see.
- Please continue. - You cried because of your husband.
- It was... - How can you...
- before I got married. - talk about your ex-boyfriend?
Then can you still drink a lot?
Now, I can't drink even if I want to...
because I had hypophysectomy a long time ago.
- It's kind of brain tumor surgery. - I see.
So even though I like drinking,
- I don't drink. - You don't drink.
And if I drink, my husband...
gets upset.
Does he have any drinking habits?
My husband has a cute drinking habit.
(A cute drinking habit?)
If a man repeats saying, "Yeong Ja, I love you",
- He keeps saying he loves you? - how would you feel?
- I think I would be happy. - She would be happy.
- I haven't heard it much. - Even...
Even a good comment can stress you out when it's repeated too much.
When he comes home, he says, "I'm sorry."
He calls my name and says he loves me, and he's sorry.
He promises he'll drink less.
He has been drinking so much...
that the owners of the bars in our neighborhood...
always send us gifts on national holidays.
- He goes to the bars that often? - Yes.
Every time we go out for a walk, some people I don't know...
say hi to him, and I ask who they are.
Then he says, "Oh, he's the bar owner."
(He's a regular customer at all the bars in the town.)
(My heart is burning while watching him like that.)
Let's meet her husband. Hello, sir.
(Who could be her husband who can't quit drinking and smoking?)
Hello. It's nice to meet you all.
Sir, your wife said...
that you weren't her type when you two first met...
- several times. - Yes.
Did you know that?
I heard it very often when we were dating.
Didn't it hurt your pride?
No, I didn't feel that way because I chose her.
(I chose her.)
(Shy)
What do you like so much about her?
Pardon me?
I like her personality.
She's adventurous and has great drive, which I find attractive.
That's why I fell in love with her.
I guess it's true you loved her more than she loved you.
I did, indeed, at first.
(I did at first.)
"At first"?
You've changed? You must love her as much as you did.
You married her because you loved her so dearly.
Then why are you making her worry?
Just as my wife said,
I developed acute diabetes.
When I checked my blood sugar level,
the result was over 600.
I remember that it was beyond the measurement range.
The doctor asked,
"Do you want to die? Or do you want to live?"
So I quit drinking and smoking exactly for a year.
- You quit drinking and smoking? - Yes, I did.
- Yes, he did. - Yes.
Then why did you start drinking and smoking again?
After about one year,
my health condition changed.
- You became healthy? - My blood sugar level...
dropped to under 110 without taking medicine.
So I started to drink again little by little.
- Because you recovered your health? - Yes.
When you drink and smoke,
you can feel that it's damaging your health.
- In fact, I lost all my teeth here. - Exactly.
That's why I can't open my mouth widely when talking.
- But I... That's right. - Then you should've drunk less.
Since medical technology has grown so much,
I think I can just get a dental implant.
How much do you actually drink?
I think I drink between 5 and 6 bottles.
You mean, every day?
I drink at least five days a week.
If you drink that much, can you remember anything next day?
After three bottles, I can't remember anything next day.
- Of course. - That's normal.
Last year, he called me and said...
that he was bleeding from the head.
What?
"I can't see anything around me but a tall building and a street light."
"It's so dark here. If I die..."
"I feel like I'm going to die. Please save me."
- Goodness gracious. - That's what he said.
I realized that he was in danger.
I called the rescue center,
and asked to track his location.
He was found lying in a parking lot.
Since he fell down on the blacktop road,
hit his head on the ground, and bled heavily.
He stayed in the ICU for 3 or 4 days,
and was moved to the general ward.
- And then he was discharged. - You must've been shocked.
I was very shocked.
But he didn't stop drinking despite what happened?
At the hospital, he said,
"If I ever drink again, I'll be your son, not your husband."
He became your son.
- Now, I have... - He became your son.
That's right. Now, I'm raising...
three sons including him.
(She must be frustrated.)
After that, I downloaded a location tracking application...
on his and my phones.
Do you remember it?
I don't remember how I was taken to the emergency room.
When I woke up next day,
I found myself in the ICU.
Reflecting on what happened, I realized...
that a human's life doesn't end so easily.
I came to this conclusion.
- I... - He's so stubborn.
(He doesn't realize the seriousness.)
He can't seem to realize how serious this is.
Sir, didn't it hurt your pride...
that she downloaded the location tracking application on your phone?
At first, I complained about it.
But after I was taken to the emergency room,
and woke up in the ICU,
I became grateful that she did so.
Could he drink even more because of the application?
- Exactly. - That's possible.
Now, I don't feel burdened...
when I have a drink.
- I... - See?
- Even if I go home late... - You shouldn't be like that.
You're supposed to feel burdened.
From what we gather, he has a serious problem.
- He drinks for no reason... - It's a habit.
just like people with alcohol dependence...
or alcohol addiction.
It's not true that I'm addicted to it.
I quit smoking three times for a year.
I think I drink because of stress.
- But that doesn't change anything. - Absolutely.
It makes me feel at ease.
- Just for a moment. - That's true.
You said drinking makes you feel at ease.
You may feel at ease, but you make your family members suffer.
They worry about me a lot. I'm always grateful towards them.
(Why does he suddenly thank them?)
- However... - What do you thank them for?
For letting you drink every day safely?
I'm grateful that my wife always worries about me.
(Don't thank me, and drink less!)
It must've been so serious to make her download the application.
Does he not answer your calls when drinking?
He hates it...
when I call him.
He says it ruins the atmosphere.
How does he react when you don't answer his calls?
He throws a fit.
I have to hang up after the phone rings three times,
and then call him again.
He throws a fit if his phone rings more than three times.
I was taken to the emergency room.
And my wife was also taken to a hospital because of drinking.
- What? - Is that true?
Is that so?
(Embarrassed)
Please tell us all the details.
What is he talking about? That's so unexpected.
Your children should've been sitting here instead of you.
My wife had brain tumor surgery twice.
Therefore, she must not drink alcohol.
She must not drink?
She mustn't. She hasn't fully recovered yet.
I can just take medicine because I have diabetes,
but you can't recover from brain tumor easily.
- You shouldn't drink either. - My goodness.
(He can't seem to realize how serious it is.)
I'm sure you can understand how she feels.
Just like you worry she might have a drink,
she's worried because you lost your teeth...
and black out when you're drunk. You must know that.
- Yes, I know that. - Then why do you ignore her calls?
I set up my own principles to live by.
My motto is to live a healthy life and die at the age of 70.
(How could you say such a thing?)
(She's upset.)
I think about it all the time.
If you say that you will die at the age of 70,
it would break your children's hearts.
I guess so.
- You don't even care. - Right.
(I want to press the button now.)
- My eldest son is 25, - I see.
and my youngest son is 22.
When my youngest son came home...
during his military leave, my husband looked unwell.
My son weighed 98kg when he enlisted in the military.
He said he would lose weight,
and my husband should reduce drinking and smoking.
so he lost about 20kg.
He came home again on leave not long ago.
He said, "I lost weight as I promised."
"Why did you not keep your promise? Keep your word."
He's worried about his father a lot.
My eldest son drives my husband...
from home to his work and vice versa instead of me because of drinking.
- Because he drinks too much? - Because he's not fully sober.
(This is serious.)
Let's meet with your son. Hello.
Hello.
Do you drink and smoke too?
I rarely drink,
and I hated the smell of cigarette since I was a child.
- I have never smoked. - You have never smoked.
And when I was little,
I nagged at my dad about the smell of cigarette.
He said, "If you smoke as an adult,"
"I will kill you."
- He said that jokingly. - Most fathers don't say that.
You must hate seeing your father drink and smoke even more.
That's right.
For my father's health,
I bought him an e-cigarette.
Since he has an e-cigarette now,
he says he only smokes a pack of cigarettes.
But I don't think that's the case.
He smokes both the e-cigarette and regular cigarettes.
That's the current situation.
You drive your father...
- to and from work every day. - That's right.
- He is nice. - He really is.
Doesn't it get exhausting?
He always smokes in the car.
He smokes with the window down.
To be honest, the smoke comes back into the car...
even if the window is down.
He nags so much that I get annoyed.
- Really? - Yes.
He tells me not to smoke or drink.
He doesn't give me...
any kind of support and praises either.
It really hurts my pride as the father.
Do you think you grew distant from your father?
I put some distance between us.
I don't talk to him.
He comes to me anyway.
He comes and says, "I love you. I am sorry for drinking."
It's not like it has happened once or twice.
This has gone on for a year.
The family motto used to be,
"Keep your promise."
- The family motto is ruined. - Yes.
He doesn't follow the family motto.
So I lost a lot of trust.
(They shouldn't grow more distant.)
Isn't it embarrassing to have your son repeatedly see...
- your drunken self? - Seriously.
Most people would try their best to keep that from happening.
That thought did occur to me.
But I want to quit when I decide it's the right time.
Isn't it the right time yet?
I need a year. If the family gives me a year,
I will be able to change.
It's nice that you have a goal, but it seems like...
neither your son nor your wife is in that goal.
They are in my heart.
My goodness.
(He is too much.)
Why do you make them suffer...
- if they are in your heart? - Then why...
How do you want them to treat you...
even when you drink and smoke?
I don't think my health is...
- in a bad state. - You think you are okay.
I want them to leave me be.
(Do you want them to watch you get sicker?)
(He must be addicted.)
An acquaintance of mine really loves to drink.
He recently called and said that he got hospitalized.
He was walking down the street when he threw up blood.
- My goodness. - He has a big stature.
He weighs about 100kg.
The doctor said he could die if the bleeding doesn't stop.
I think the biggest problem is that...
you are walking on the thin line between life and death.
The family members must be worried,
- but you are unperturbed. - Seriously.
Perhaps you don't know how serious the situation is yet.
Doesn't Ji Ho's story have any effect on you?
Do you think, "That's his fate"?
I told you that I need a year.
I need a year. In that time...
(To what extent do we need to be understanding?)
He needs to get his gum treated,
but it's impossible since he drinks and smokes.
- Of course. - Yes.
Due to the condition of his teeth, he can't chew.
That's why he keeps losing weight.
I hope he would quit smoking if possible.
- How about drinking? - He gets stressed out...
from running a business.
He has no way to relieve it.
So I hope he would drink less.
He uses the stress as an excuse.
A friend of mine once told me that...
he studied the pattern of his drinking.
He calls the others first and asks to meet,
- drinks, and pays. - That's right.
Thus, he couldn't stop drinking.
You should think about it.
Perhaps you are creating the situation...
which drives you to drink.
I think it has become a habit.
It's as Dong Yeob said.
You say your health isn't in a serious state...
because you take medicines,
but we think you reached the end.
There is no debate.
The situation is serious.
You need to accept that.
Why don't you change your goal to a long life?
(Live a long and healthy life.)
You can get help from an expert...
- if it's too hard. - That's right.
You shouldn't be embarrassed about it.
There was a reason why I decided to visit the show.
I wanted...
to find the motivation...
to quit.
- That's why I came here. - You did the right thing.
I want to thank everyone.
- Today... - Please make a promise.
I won't be able to quit 100 percent,
- but I promise... - In a week...
(You will quit this time, right?)
I promise to do my best.
You are only escaping from the situation.
(I should have known.)
- Let's set some clear goals. - Clear goals.
Why don't you at least reduce the amount?
I refuse to make a promise I can't keep.
(They are back to the starting point.)
(He lies again that he'll take care of his problems.)
(He is so stubborn.)
- We don't ask you to quit entirely. - As I said,
I will give the matter some thoughts...
and make preparations.
Son, you should give up on dieting and eat.
Your son lost 20kg.
Why won't you drink twice a week?
Twice a week.
(I can't hear you.)
He didn't even move.
That would be hard.
(How much sicker do you need to be to get a hold of yourself?)
Let's start with Ji Ho. Do you think it's a worry?
I get that you work hard for your family's happiness,
but anything could happen...
once the situation worsens.
I hope you would think more about your health.
I hope you would quit right now...
for yourself.
You keep bringing damage to the people around you.
It's really selfish.
I used to enjoy drinking alone after my children went to bed.
But one day, my daughter told me,
"Dad, your liver will rot at that rate."
(Dong Seok quit drinking due to shock.)
- Those are strong words. - Her words made me quit.
You are the head of the family.
You need to live happily and healthily.
I hope you would show your change to your family.
(Dong Seok thinks it's a worry.)
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
So many people are pressing the button.
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
So many people pressed the button.
(Pressing endlessly)
Let's see the result.
(The sound of the buttons was very loud.)
157 votes?
167 votes?
- 167 votes? - 167 votes.
(167 votes)
The worry got many votes.
Thus, "Do You Have a Death Wish?" won this week.
We will give the winner the prize money.
Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free...
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.